I was cruising post secret this morning and came across someone's secret that really spoke to me.  In case you don't know about the website, I stole this explanation from Wikipedia:

PostSecret is an ongoing community mail art project, created by Frank Warren, in which people mail their secrets anonymously on a homemade postcard. Select secrets are then posted on the PostSecret website, or used for PostSecret's books or museum exhibits.

I haven't talked about it much other than when I first got my grandmother's RSVP but am deeply saddened by it.  My grandmother RSVP'd no and I haven't made an effort to speak with her since.  I don't want this to be the catalyst that keeps me from her - but she's declined a huge opportunity for us to start getting close again.

I also don't know how to ask her why - because I don't think she'll tell the truth.


  1. Weddings bring up family drama like nothing else. I actually moved our wedding location and date to accommodate a few people I really wanted to be able to come, and then they seemed kind of on the fence about attending anyway! They did come in the end - also frustrating for me were the people who just didn't even bother to RSVP, or who RSVP'd yes and then didn't come because it was good golfing weather. (Yes. Seriously.)

  2. Why do you think she isn't coming? Why don't you think she'll be honest about it?

    Probably the easiest thing to do is to write your grandma a note or card and just say that you are very sorry that she is not able to attend, maybe (if you want to) ask if there is anything you can do to make it an easier day for her so she is able to attend, and if not, say you'll send photos for her to see as soon as you can afterwards. (And then do it.)

    I am sorry for your wedding stress. I got married 11 days ago (we got engaged in Vegas!) and weddings in general (and family and weddings in particular) is very stressful.

    Good luck!!

  3. I don't know what to tell you there. That must be really hard on you and I'm sorry it turned out like that.


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