Yesterday evening, I asked several family members "What does it take?" I wanted advise, words of wisdom etc.
This is what I was told:
- Patience
- A committment to commitment
- Knowing what you want out of life
- Luck to find a good woman
- Know that the woman is right
- Have a sense of humour
To anyone that reads this who has been in a long term, stable, committed realtionship - I'd love to hear your advise as well.
Compromise. It's huge. I think it can make or break a couple.
ReplyDeleteAlso, being able to admit you screwed up and apologizing for it.
And most importantly, willing to recognize that it will take A LOT of work. No relationship is perfect, they require work. :)
Those are some lessons I have learned over the past 4 years. :)
Well being a young married couple, just hit 5 years in March, I would have to say you need to be flexible and communicate. More than likely each of you will want to go in a different direction with things. If you are able to talk things through together you find a true north among you and more than likely if you reach that true north the outcome will be much greater than any direction you could have gone by yourself.
ReplyDeleteKnowing when to swallow your ego and say two simple words: "I'm sorry."
ReplyDeleteAnd I think it's so important that couples have time to play together - to laugh and to enjoy each other's company. :)
BF and I just celebrated 6.5 years this weekend!! I think it takes compromise, communication, and lots of laughs. Doing things together, be a team. Hope your parents enjoy the next 30 years together!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to your parents!
ReplyDeleteCompromise.
Communication.
Co-operation.
Willing to work hard. I'm in denial myself that relationships take work because I feel it should be effortless but obviously I'm finding out other wise. Also, admitting that sometimes your wrong and manning up to it.
ReplyDeleteIt takes a lot of patience, but one thing that works really well for us is looking out for one another, trusting that it goes both ways.
ReplyDeleteI just found your blog--love this post!
ReplyDeleteI read a great comment on successful relationships somewhere: Always believe the best of your partner.
It applies to so much, and it makes such a difference.