To be fair, by people, I mean people who are 20-40 years older than me - at least those are the ones in my life who generally make the comment; I'm sure others have other experiences.
The first time my grandmother said it to me, I responded with "you're right - they don't have to cost a lot. Do you know what does impact finances - not working for a year." She took a minute, and then agreed - because while she worked later on in life, while she was raising her five children - she didn't work, and didn't have to. In fact, it was expected that she wouldn't. There also weren't the options that exist now. Sure, there were baby carriers - but not nearly the options that we have today. There are more choices now, more options.
Here's the thing - I think it's okay to spend money.
It's a tool and while I think it's important to have a stash for emergencies, planned spending and all that good stuff, it's also okay to spend the money you do have for discretionary things on just that - things that are discretionary.
So, yes, my stroller was pretty pricey...but its the best stroller for my families needs.
Jordan and I decided pretty early on, that our decision making tree for baby would put money last, not first. Don't get me wrong, I haven't completely lost my frugal wits, we just decided on what our priorities would be before making purchasing decisions.
- Frustration Level
Safety's first, always. Next comes frustration level - I tend to run pretty hot. I wasn't graced with patience a mile long like my mom, I'm more like my dad - short/quick temper & no grudges. So, with that in mind, I knew that any equipment we bought for baby - be it a stroller or a car seat or something else, it had to be easy to figure out. I'm going to be stressed already as a first time mom, scared, learning, and I don't want to buy something that I know would set me off. Last, is money.
We saved up for a long time for this baby, three years, and so while we do think about money and look for sales it's not as important as number one and number two on the list.