On the drive home from work tonight, Jordan and I had a frank and honest conversation about money. We chatted about where we've been, where we are and where we want to be. It stemmed in part by two separate events -
...we are both on the cusp of raises again and are expecting a significant change. I wanted to have a look and make sure our budget actually reflects what we do - not what we want to do or think we ought to do. While I like to project and think into the future, Jordan likes to wait until we have actual numbers - the facts. Jordan wants us to stick to our spending plan - and not just increase the budget because we can't seem to get a hold of ourselves. We've never been able to construct a system that would prevent us from using plastic.
then...a couple of days ago Jordan and mentioned wanting a pressure washer so that come spring we could clean the outside of the house easily. I had suggested borrowing my mom's (a three hour drive away) - and you can image where the conversation went from there. To sum it up - he is tired of me bringing up the credit card (yes, we have a balance again) every time he mentions wanting something. What I hear (which is not what he's actually saying) is that he wants to go out and buy something right now when he's really just making a statement of preference.
So - we had a conversation about that.
We both acknowledged that the place we're in now - is not the place we want to be financially. We looked at what we've tried - cash and credit - neither worked for us. Cash slips out of the fingers too quickly and credit...well it gets swiped to quickly. The thing that Jordan did like about cash was that ones it's gone - it's gone. That's it.
So Jordan suggested that we explore using our debit card - though he knew that last time we did this I was frequently upset/agitated when trying to keep track of things. We chatted about why that was - we have so many ins and outs in our main account...every single bill we have is automated (except for the credit card) - and using the debit freaks me out! What if spend money that is allocated for a bill. What if something bounces? No way!
I'm not sure who's idea it was, and it really doesn't matter, but we've come up with a new plan...a better plan. Once that we came up with together and we think it will work!
The New Plan
- Stop Using Credit Cards - cut them up if we have too.
- Maintain chequing account for all bills - with no debit card access
- Open new chequing account for day to day spending
We will deposit money into the new account, much like we do for our savings accounts on a regular basis that corresponds with our pay schedule. We will both have debit access and will use this account for groceries, gas, entertainment ect. Here's the beauty of it - if we run out, we run out and it's okay - because nothing that is automated will be tied to it - nothing will bounce.
The credit card debt will stop increasing. It will go down. It has to.